"The frankest and freest product of the human mind and heart is a love letter; the writer gets his limitless freedom of statement and expression from his sense that no stranger is going to see what he is writing." - Mark Twain. I've always thought of wedding vows as a love letter read out loud. But the way they're typically spoken, written, and expressed, is almost forced. They're an expression of love, I think, better kept for a love letter. I want my vows to be my frankest and freest thoughts and feelings. But I don't feel that limitless freedom that Twain talks about. Knowing this letter - the most personal, important, thoughtful and lasting love letter I'll ever write - will be heard by everyone, scares me. That's why, as a guy who expresses himself much better on paper, I've decided to write Kayla a love letter as well. The love letter. A love letter written in a way I wish I could have spoken to Kayla - but can't. Just like a photograph, I want her to be able to re-read my vows to her, remember why I married her and cherish that letter for the rest of her life. Maybe your medium of love is through music or poetry or art. Whatever it is, it's helped me to think of my vows as a love letter. If you're a bit stuck too, start by expressing yourself in the most natural way you know how. Cheers, Nigel PS I'm getting married tomorrow :)